A feature of having an infant that I had forgotten is the thing where there will be like 3 really basic household tasks that could do with getting done but cannot without baby-screaming. Laundry, dishes, cooking, unpacking a package, things of that nature. I will be sitting, looking at a pile of laundry I folded last night, and think, well? Is that worth the screaming it would produce? Or do I wait for a nap, as in a proper in-crib nap and not a lap one (lap ones are cuddly but not compatible with accomplishing anything else, except I suppose this newsletter) and then do it? Each such nap allows for maybe one chore, and you have to triage these.
I hope that this “thing” is cathartic for you. Writers gonna write.
It’s all about realistic expectations. (Not my forte though.)
Sounds as if you are doing just fine.